That is objectively false - people create tulpas out of a desire for a loved companion, but also out of other desires. Friendship, without love. An escape. A second perspective. Simple curiosity.
A tulpa does not necessarily know many things by personal experience, but does have access to your knowledge and memories, and can understand what "love" is from that.
6:15 PM
No, I do not hold affection for any random friend of mine to the degree that I would trust them with essentially anything I am.
Do you hold affection for anybody to a degree that you care about their well-being, treat them with kindness and respect, but don't... Say, want to sleep with them or physically touch them?
I would barely say that I "love" Skye. We treat each other more in terms of being considerate roommates and partners in experiencing life. It certainly could be considered a platonic love, but it did not start as such.
6:24 PM
My primary concern is 'loving' somebody that you do not know to any extent aside from your intent for them.
Friendly affection comes out of treating others with respect and consideration for their well-being. It can certainly develop into a kind of love - but why would starting with love be needed in the first place?
6:26 PM
Ah, simple - what are people 'loving' in the first place?
So, is the person in love with the concept of what a tulpa is? Are they in love with their intended result of 'making a tulpa' - in other words, a character they think up?
6:28 PM
At the very least, it should be clear why the latter could be problematic.
Give them respect, consideration, and kindness. If love develops out of that, it will. If it doesn't, you can certainly live with companionable friendship as well.
6:31 PM
Actual actions and treatment are always more important than intent.
Self-honesty and understanding of one's own intent and desires can prevent those missteps.
6:35 PM
Yes. But that love isn't for the actual tulpa at first, is my point... Since that tulpa does not exist yet.
6:35 PM
It is love of a wish.
6:35 PM
Not of reality.
6:36 PM
Again, intending to love "whatever your tulpa becomes" is fine.
6:37 PM
But, that isn't anywhere near the same as saying you love "your tulpa" the instant you start trying to force, or saying that people should love the nonexistent concept of what they imagine a tulpa to be like.
[Mah Idk, you can love your mother or sibling or your country. Like you attach love to concepts. And if it turns our your country is spying on you and you don't like it you can still love it. Like you never have complete information. You love the concept of your tulpa and as the tulpa changes your love shifts with it. It does seem to kinda work out?]
It avoids misinterpretation on the part of others, helps prevent misleading new people, and allows you to acknowledge differing intent which can help prevent your own missteps.
The very steps can be a recipe to success. The symbolism of loving the entire road helping it to happen. It's not even misleading yourself or others it creates the very reality you will end up experiencing. If you go all the way "I don't actually love my tulpa yet, I am not allowed ect." I think it's bound to create more problems instead
Otherwise, loving the idea of a 'character' can also lead to individuals not giving any thought to deviation or not genuinely considering it - beyond that, it can also certainly lead to simply creating a character rather than a person.
6:45 PM
...goodness. I don't think trying to love your tulpa from the beginning is 'bad' exclusively.
6:45 PM
I even explicitly stated that the issue is claiming that while acting in an undisciplined manner.
I was making a point about the concept of "love your tulpa unconditionally", in which many people do so without any kind of discipline or personal honesty about what they actually care about - which can lead them into some common problems.
6:49 PM
And, of course, that 'love' is not a necessary component of making a tulpa.
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